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Essence Training.
(the most recent blog entry is at the top of the page)
How to handle ALL circumstances in your life in a way that makes you enjoy life much more than you do right now, and in a way that makes you much more effective than you are right now.
Day 5.
The final day of the Essence Training is over. There will be an after-training on Wednesday 20th February, 2008.
Giving others their space, respect their space, listening without judgment, or even without a reply, or reaction.
My response to an event, whether it is a positive, or a negative event, has to be based on the present, and not on the past. Although it might seem as if I am dealing with two events which are exactly the same: every event is unique, and I can choose my response to it.
Any fear is based on the past. Just do it! You cannot ever predict the results of an action, before you have actually taken it.
The way my body responds to fear is exactly the same as my body's response to........excitement!
Day 4 .
Started early today. An exhausting, but very beautiful, fulfilling day in which many things about myself have become clear.
It is astonishing to see through how much pain I went in the last few days, and how good I feel right now, in harmony, with myself and with the world. Everything is exactly how it should be, or rather: everything is what it is.
Judging others and judging myself (!) have become completely pointless and silly to me.
There is a new outlook on the world, a new outlook on life, a new outlook on me.
Day 3
Lots of laughter and joy, but lots of inner pain as well.
My own thoughts:
I do not want to deny what I stand for, just because I want to be polite and nice.
Silencing the people who want the best for all, is a crime against humanity (Martin Luther King Jr., Robert Kennedy, Nelson Mandela when he was in prison).
There is no one who knows me better than I know myself; others do not know me. Why, then, should I care more about what other people think of me than about what I think of me?
I only have one life, which I want to dedicate to love, care, and co-operation.
Day 2
It is tough. Long days, late hours (the average is 9). I've just arrived home (it's 2 AM). Every day of the training, I cycle for one hour from the south to the north of Amsterdam, and back. On the way home, a fellow student accompanies me, fortunately.
In the past few days, I have discovered some things about myself. Some of them I absolutely do not like, others I do like. Below, you can find a few highlights.
The disease to please is based on fear and fear only. If I want to be more effective in my life, this is the worst way to do it.
I hide my emotions in the fear of being hurt (again).
I judge people more often than I like to admit, and, more than that, I am my own worst enemy in that respect. This stops me from growing spiritually.
However:
I never judge people on the way they look.
I trust everyone, without exception. If I should not trust them, I will find out in the future.
I processed everything there is to process about the relationship with my parents.
I am sure that no one else but me can be responsible for my own life.
Day 1
Yesterday, I started a training program which is called Essence Training (founder Yiftach Sagiv). Unfortunately, I have not found any links in English yet (only in Dutch), so I will look those up for you later. The content of the processes I will not discuss here or anywhere else, because I want to give everyone the opportunity to experience the training without preconceptions or prejudice, and with spontaneity.
If you want to be more effective in your life, if you do not want to make the same mistakes over and over again, if you want to have better relationships and better friendships, if you want to be more effective at work, or in any other area in your life, I recommend this training wholeheartedly.
To be continued.